This is for all of you mamas out there. First of all, you’re a freaking Rockstar and don’t let anyone tell you different. Whether you’re a mama to one, a mama of 12, a stay-at-home mama, a working full-time or part-time mama, running your own business, or whatever else you might be, you are still awesome!

I feel a bit like a hypocrite because I say all of these things and I do mean them because being a mom is flipping hard and if you disagree then tell me all of your secrets! I often find myself at the end of the night questioning whether I could have been a better mom for the day, I lost my patience, I yelled and yes, (gasp) I smacked a butt or two. I hate doing it and I hate losing my patience but sometimes it happens and at the end of the day when they are both safe and asleep in their beds, I feel like a total failure. I know many moms feel the same way and I wish there was more I could do to help, so, here I am at 10pm, my kids are both asleep I just finished up some work I needed to get done and I am thinking about how I lost it this afternoon and questioning, was I a good mom today? Am I enough for them? I got emotional too, watching a movie I have seen 1,000 times before, one I love, and one my kids love too. Unfortunately, it has a rather said beginning and the children lose their mom. That is when it hit me, like a freaking train rolling down the tracks. I am their mama, and I am the most important person in their lives. Even when we have bad times and I lose it, guess who they run to for comfort because their little emotions got away from them, me, their mama. What if they lost me? Who would care for them like I do? May be an unpopular opinion but there is no one who could love and care for my children the way I do because I am their mom. Grandparents, aunts, uncles, and friends all love my children and would go above and beyond for them, but they will never love them like I do and that is okay, at least they are loved and let’s hope the worry of them being without me is not going to happen anytime in the near future.

Children are like tiny sponges; they are absorbing this whole world around them. A world they have only been in for a short time. Sometimes they get overwhelmed, sometimes they have bad days, but they are not bad kids. I read an article a while back talking about how parents call their kids bad, and I try not to use the term anymore because they are not bad, they have bad moments. They get overwhelmed with the world and causes them to have little tantrums. My advice, let them have the tantrum and it will then pass. Sometimes they just need to release the frustration and that is the best way they know how. Don’t get me wrong kids can be bad and there are plenty out there, but not all. I try to teach my kids manners and how to behave and mind, guess what…they don’t sometimes. Do I get frustrated? Of course, I do but I just say to myself, I am doing the best that I can, and tomorrow is a new day.

So, for all you mamas out there who are maybe having a similar day to mine, questioning your motherhood ask yourself these questions; do your children have a roof over their head, food in their belly, and a family who loves them so much? If you answer yes to any of those, then mama you are a freaking Rockstar.