Hey everyone!

I am so sorry I have been MIA for a while! Life is just crazy right now and I barely have time to breathe let alone keep up with all of you, so thank you for hanging around and waiting on me.

I am going to get a bit personal again tonight. It’s almost 11 pm and I am just getting a moment to myself, with kids and work sometimes I feel like I am just getting by. I want to talk about something that is not often brought up.

When someone gets out of an abusive or narcissistic relationship there are a ton of people behind that person to help them heal and talk to them about how difficult it was in the relationship, but what about the relationship after the abuse? It isn’t really talked about but let me tell you, it should be. The relationship after is so damn hard too. Imagine living in a world where you are constantly criticized and manipulated into thinking you’ve done everything wrong; you are not beautiful; you are always the one at fault and when you finally step up and question something you are made to feel bad about it or called crazy. Now imagine you are in a caring relationship, one where you are treated with respect, this person does everything you have ever asked for from a partner, this person makes you feel beautiful every minute of every day, they make you feel special and appreciated and they do it all by beating down the walls you have built up. They do it because they genuinely care about you. They look at your past and understand it and spend every day trying to erase everything that happened to you. Anxiety? Through the roof. For the right person, it won’t matter, they will care for you anyway and still support you and help you through all of your emotions! Trust issues? You bet, they will answer every question and do it with care and tenderness. For the right person, your past is just your past and what you went through is a chapter in your book.

I have recently started a new relationship; one I didn’t think would ever happen. I have not dated steadily for years and honestly, I was okay—most days. Then, this one came out of left field. I am so thankful for him already. We are still new in our relationship but, I cannot wait to see where it goes.

My advice to anyone out of the hell, be optimistic that someone is out there waiting for you. You’ll learn to care again and one day love again. Take it one day at a time and know there are so many who are rooting for you!