Hey ya’ll, sorry it has been a while. Everyone knows life just gets away from us sometimes and that is okay! I’m here to remind you, live your life, do the dang things, and just love every minute of it.
It is hard for me to say that too because I am a bit of a hypocrite when it comes to just living life. I STRESS, like do so many others but I let it get the best of me sometimes. I have been really working hard at doing what makes me happy and focusing on self-care. I know I have talked about this before and that is because I believe it is so important, especially as a mom. You are not the best you can be when you have mounds of stress on your shoulders. I know my body tells me when I need to cool my jets. After so much exhaustion, your immune system starts to suffer and when that happens, it’s inevitable; you’re going to get sick. When I start to feel down, I know I really need to take care of myself for a little while otherwise everyone suffers.
Moms especially, I know we have that dreaded mom guilt about letting someone else take care of your kids for a while, but it is so important to take care of yourself too. If you have a loving and supportive partner who takes 50% of the responsibility of caring for your children, then that is awesome, and I am so happy for you! Use that to your advantage and remember, they need a break too now and then. I think as women we are expected to be the caregiver, it’s in our nature and that is how it has been done for years. However, we live in a world now where single income is not enough to care for your family and you need that second income so many moms are out here doing both, dads too. I just want to say, were total badasses!
If you’re a single mom like me then not only are you the sole caregiver for your kids, you’re also the sole provider too. Let me tell you, I see you out there, killing it, and I know how hard it is! I am fortunate enough to have family and if I need a break, sometimes I just have to take it. But, as soon as I do, I immediately feel guilty about it. Its normal.
The past week has been especially hard on me because my youngest has decided he had separation anxiety from me. Its mild for the most case, except when we are all headed to bed. Sometimes it takes 2 hours to get him to calm down and fall asleep, sometimes it leads to vomiting. It’s been slowly getting better as I have been trying new things and suggestions, but I have been so exhausted that I felt a headache and some sickness coming on, so I did what I thought was right and asked a family member to watch the boys while I took a nap. Let me tell you, I woke up from a 40-minute nap like a brand-new person.
I am also a fan of essential oils. I do think they help, especially when I’m trying to get to sleep. I have a diffuser in almost every room of my house, and I have been trying to keep up with them. If you haven’t used them before I suggest you do some research and decide if it is something you want in your home. Like before I mentioned Melaleuca, I get my oils from there as well and have never been let down.
Whoever you are, remember self-care is important and take some time for yourself. You deserve it!